With a full hour until my boarding time, I propped my feet up on my suitcase and took in the usual pre-flight activity: people enjoying a book, business travelers tapping away on their laptops, and vacationers discussing their agendas. Suddenly I overheard a conversation that caught my attention.
Two young women, both in their early twenties, sat a few rows ahead of me. They were dressed fashionably, with perfectly done hair and makeup. Basically the exact opposite far of me in my sweatpants, sweatshirt, and messy bun.
Unfortunately, I must admit that my mind was immediately filled with judgment. I eyed them up and down, internally critiquing their choice of airport attire.
Their laughter drew the attention of several people in the gate, including mine. Here’s a bit of what I heard:
“Did you see what she posted on Instagram?” one of them said.
“Yes! I can’t believe she thinks she looks good in that dress,” the other replied.
“And her boyfriend? He’s definitely not with her for her looks,” the first one added, smirking. “He must be blind or just desperate.”
Their words stung, even though they weren’t directed at me. I couldn’t help but think about the woman they were talking about, someone who wasn’t present to defend herself. I imagined her excitedly posting a photo only to become the target of these cruel remarks.
I then was reminded of my own initial judgmental thoughts toward these women. Solely based on their outfit selection versus my own, I allowed myself to fall into the deadly grasp of comparison.
In a world where we are constantly bombarded with images of perfection and success, comparison can easily take root in our hearts, leading to feelings of inadequacy and envy.
But ladies – enough is enough!
I don’t know about you, but I want to be FREE from the grasp of comparison and jealousy. I want to be a woman who builds others up. I want to walk through each day with peace in my own unique journey.
Below we are going to discuss tips for navigating comparison. Before beginning, though, please remember that this is not a one-time task but a continuous journey. It’s a process of leaning on God’s strength to reshape our perspectives and find contentment in His plan for our lives.
“A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.”
Proverbs 14:30
The first step in overcoming comparison is acknowledging that it’s an issue. Reflect on moments when you feel envious or inadequate. Identify triggers – such as social media or specific relationships – that lead to these feelings. Recognizing the problem is crucial to addressing it.
This simple yet profound statement rings especially true for followers of Jesus. Although we strive to live a life of faith and purpose, comparison constantly tries to creep in to steal our joy and distracts us from our unique calling as children of God.
“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
1 Thessalonians 5:18
Gratitude is a powerful antidote to comparison. Instead of focusing on what others have that you don’t, make a conscious effort to appreciate your own blessings. You might consider starting a gratitude journal and list things you are thankful for each day. This practice can shift your perspective from lack to abundance.
“Encourage one another and build each other up.”
1 Thessalonians 5:11
Make a conscious effort to celebrate and support other women’s successes. When we genuinely applaud the achievements of others, we shift our focus from competition to community and live out the calling in scripture to uplift one another.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
Psalm 139:14
God has created each of us uniquely, with our own gifts and talents. Embrace your individuality and understand that your worth is not dependent on how you compare to others. Celebrate your strengths and work on your weaknesses, knowing that you are wonderfully made.
By appreciating your unique journey and the gifts God has given you, you can find contentment and confidence in your own path. This self-acceptance diminishes the urge to compare yourself to others and helps you see that everyone’s journey is different and valuable in its own way.
“Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”
Colossians 3:2
While not directly addressing social media, this verse encourages followers ofJesus to focus their thoughts and attention on spiritual and eternal matters rather than being consumed by worldly distractions. Applying this principle can involve being intentional about how much time is spent on social media versus engaging in activities that nurture spiritual growth, meaningful relationships, and personal well-being.
Social media can be a major source of comparison, as it often showcases idealized versions of others’ lives. Next time you are on social media, I urge you to tune into your thoughts. If you find yourself tearing down others or yourself, I STRONGLY suggest you take action to prevent its continuation.
Unfollow accounts that trigger feelings of inadequacy. Instead, follow accounts that uplift and inspire you. Additionally, set boundaries on your social media usage and focus on real-life interactions. You might consider using an app that monitors your screen time, and scheduling regular digital detox periods to reconnect with yourself and your surroundings.
“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”
Proverbs 13:20
Build a support network of friends and family who encourage and uplift you. Being around positive influences can help you maintain a healthy perspective and provide you with the encouragement you need to stay focused on your own path.
Being in the company of those who celebrate your successes and strengths helps you see your worth apart from others’ achievements. Their positivity and encouragement can inspire you to focus on your own growth and accomplishments, rather than feeling inadequate compared to others.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Ephesians 4:32
Be kind to yourself. Understand that everyone has struggles and that it’s okay to have moments of self-doubt. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer to a friend. Remember that growth is a journey, and it’s important to celebrate small victories along the way.
Overcoming comparison is a journey that requires God’s guidance and patience with ourselves.
Remember, true contentment comes from understanding and embracing your worth in Christ, not in how you measure up to others.
Take a moment to reflect. When do you find yourself comparing yourself to others the most? How can you focus on your own progress and growth, rather than comparing your journey to others?
Abbey holds a degree in journalism from Indiana University. Her favorite topics to cover are spiritual development, nutrition, and the importance of community and connection. Currently, she and her husband live in Michigan where she works in active ministry. In her free time you’ll likely find her nose deep in a book, leading group fitness classes, or experimenting in the kitchen.
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